One thing I’ve learnt as I’ve become older is that not one person has their shit together.
Even your parents still feel like teenagers and are winging it when it comes to making life decisions. As is that girl who seems to be travelling to a different country every week, or the couple who have just bought their first house, or even your mate who just got an awesome promotion.
Which is why Lucy Vine’s Hot Mess hit me at the exact right time.
For now I’m doing pretty great for once. I’ve found a flat I love (and can afford), started a job I love which is close to being a dream job, have great friends and family as well as being single (and happy) for the first time in a while.
But that still doesn’t stop the doubts creeping in; should I be in a relationship by now? Should I be earning more money? Am I meant to be on the property ladder already?
Hot Mess shows the story of a woman who is attempting to make her own way, as everyone asks her why she is still single as she navigates a shitty job and finds her friends all seem to be doing better than her.
Whilst I haven’t quite got to the stage where people are harassing me about being single, I know older friends who have felt that pressure, when saying they’re happy single only for those to say ‘it will happen eventually’ or ‘it must be great not having the old ball and chain [canned laughter]’ or even ‘I miss being single, let’s play Tinder.’ Thank god she also gets the dating app fatigue as I now feel.
It also proves how when you feel like you haven’t got your shit together, most other people don’t either. If we were all honest about it, we would all admit to imposter syndrome and panicking that we weren’t where we were supposed to be.
As someone who loves chick lit, I was even pleased that she didn’t end up with anyone at the end, be it the hot flat mate or her oldest friend, because it would have devalued the essence of the story; being in a relationship should not be the end game of your life.
With underlying problems with her mother dying, long term relationships ending and the dynamic between her father and sister, I loved it much more than I expected. If anything, the caricature of the character being so overtly failing at nearly everything in her life, makes you come away realising that there is at least something good in your life; be it job, relationship, money, healthy.
So if you need a pick me up or just something to make yourself feel less alone about about being in your twenties and feeling completely and utterly lost, Hot Mess is the one for you.